To love… and be loved! Matchmaker, make me a match!

This feels… odd. Even though I’ve tried “online dating”, having a web site devoted to my search just feels… odd! But here goes.

As you may have guessed by now, I like to write, and I like to share! Hence why I have web sites, and YouTube channels, and all kinds of avenues to share my writing and my thoughts. So maybe writing and sharing what I’m hoping for — and what I have to offer — is kind of “in line” with my style?

Anyway, the online dating sites don’t seem to be helping me find my person. So what are my options? I was thinking a billboard. Put a stylish picture of me up on a billboard somewhere. But where is somewhere? I have my doubts that I’d pick the right city! Or for that matter, the right state. Or even the right country.

So I’m back to… let’s write! Oh golly, where to start?

Who – and what – I’m looking for

I am truly looking for my person, the person I’ll spend however many more years of my life with, creating memories with, learning with, hiking with, watching Netflix with, getting old with — okay, acting young with!

The person I’ll make dinner for while I am able, and who may make dinner for me when I can’t. The person who will dance this dance called life with me. The person… my person.

I don’t know what you look like, I don’t know your name. But I hope to know you by your spirit. As the songwriter James Taylor says, I am confident I’ll know you by something in the way you move — or in the way you move me.

And I hope you will feel the same for me.

The basics! Age height weight

The easy stuff, and some semi mutable stuff. I was born in the United States fifty five years ago. That makes me… 55! I’m 6’2, around 175 pounds. Now that the basics are out of the way!

About exes – there are none in tow!

I’ve never been married, I’m not bringing any exes into this, they are gone, history. I’ve moved on as best someone can. You will not be competing with any of them. Promise!

I am looking for someone who has similar values, where exes belong in one’s history, not remaining permanent fixtures in one’s future. I’m certainly not looking for someone who is best friends with their exes. In fact, I’m looking to be someone’s best friend.

About vacationing with my partner – always say yes!

A few months ago I was talking with my dad after a rather interesting revelation he shared with me about love. It seems recently I had the opportunity of hearing folks saying how they vacation by themselves, and vacation with their friends, and when they have time they’ll vacation with their partner — that their thoughts are to vacation, and then to return to their partner to tell them all about the things they’ve done, without their partner.

So I told my dad about these “vacationing without one’s partner” thing. My 95 year old dad looked at me side eye and laughed a bit, and said, “Son, why would you want to go on vacation without the person you love, why wouldn’t you want to make those memories with the one you love?” The whole experience got me truly thinking about love — and writing about it.

So today I’ll take a stand. I am not one to focus on “vacationing with my friends without my person”. I am interested in vacationing with my person — and other people are more than welcome to join us! Let’s make some memories together, here, or somewhere else.

About politics & religion – love one another

I have a heart for homeless and immigrants, and for others who are marginalized, who have no voice. For what it is worth, I spent most of my life as someone who believed “You don’t work you don’t eat”. God and circumstance changed me deeply.

Today my religion is that of kindness, as best as I’m able to do so. To quote Dalai Lama,

“My Religion is Kindness. This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness”.

Dalai Lama

I hope to find someone who makes me a better person tomorrow than I am today, and I hope to be that influence on you in this life, and the next.

About fitness and exercise – let’s sweat!

Being physically fit is important. I’m not a gym rat, but walking and jogging and getting outdoors is important to me.

Let’s plan to walk or hike or jog or run a few times a week, to urban hike when we are in a new city, to hike in the mountains when we vacation (or move!) there, to find activities to get our heart rate up! Time to adventure!

About monogamy – I am

I am interested in a monogamous long term relationship.

In case you are wondering, I have not “tried” polyamory, and I’m not really interested in doing so. I would prefer to send my affections to a single person, and receive them from a single person.

We only have fifty years left, I’m not really interested in diluting it.

About smarts and education – not sure it is important

Education is cool! Caring for homeless and immigrants is “cooler still”. For me, I have a master’s degree in computer engineering, with a thesis targeting artificial intelligence. How does it help me with my mission of kindness? Well, I’m not sure it does. It does reflect on how my mind works though. And I suppose it is a reminder of who I was, when I was.

About looks – a tough one

Okay, a tough one. You must be good looking. Why? Because one or the other of us has to be better looking, and I pick you.

About emotional availability – a difficult one

I am emotionally willing to admit that I’m working on myself, and hope that my person will help me be a better person tomorrow than the person I am today. I hope you feel the same!

About money – the love of money

They say money problems cause a lot of divorce and destruction in relationships. I think it is true. It isn’t only about “having it” or “not having it” though. I understand a lot of arguments deal with style of spending and what one finds important — or not important. It turns out a lot goes into money, and deciding how to spend it.

On the basics of money, I have no debt, I take care of my finances. My unwritten budget is made easier by having a reasonable income. I’d appreciate someone who manages their finances well.

This life, this world, is made more difficult for folks who do not have a lot. I’ve done okay for myself, in part because I was fortunate enough to be in a field that pays well enough. For what it is “worth”, I really don’t like that I love money, and I’m sure god don’t own a car.

That all said, I have found that I appreciate glamorous vacations. I also appreciate low cost vacations. I also appreciate staycations. One conclusion I have made is it is more about “who I am with” rather than “where I am at”.

About location – flexibility!

I currently live in South Florida, but most importantly I am relocatable! I would prefer my next move to either be with my person, or for my person! All things are negotiable.

La vie dansante – the dancing life

The dancing life — dance this metaphorical dance of life with me! Swing dancing, Latin dancing, a Waltz, whatever this dance looks like, I am ready, and I am willing! Following a cue from Jimmy Buffett, will you wander and follow La Vie Dansante with me?

About marriage – I do

Marriage. Okay. I’m going there. In my opinion, a successful dating experience will hopefully wind up as… marriage.

I know there are quite a few folks in the world who “want a companion” or “want a long term relationship” or “want a traveling companion” or whatever you want. I wish to be married one day, like with a paper and everything, and I want to work through issues in dating to wind up in a place where both of us want to be married, to each other.

About referrals – matchmaker, there’s a finders fee!

It has been my pleasure sharing, and thank you for reading! I truly appreciate it! That said, if you are not my person, but you are thinking hey, this fellow might be a good match for someone else, then know that there is a finders fee and reward! Reward is negotiable, and will absolutely include a trip with us somewhere!

Thanks for sticking in here with reading my “dating bio”. If you have recommendations please send them my way! And truly, if you think you are my person, I am so very much looking forward to meeting you.

You can email me at mark@theguyfrommiami.com or leave a message below.